Divorce happens more than we wish it would. Actually, rates show that about half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. It is very difficult for parents to have to conversation telling their kids they are getting divorced. Especially for the mother; it is nature for them to worry about what they will think and how they will take it. They ask themselves if they will blame her, or that it is her fault and that is the very last thing they hope for. My parents actually got divorced 5 years ago. Me being 13 and my brother being 10, I noticed it was a lot harder to get over the pain compared to a much younger child where they could not remember much. I noticed that my brother and I reacted to the divorce very differently. He was quiet about it and did not say much. Me on the other hand, I broke down the second they told me and took me a while to get used to coming home to just my mom or just my dad. Seeing divorce on my topic sheet sparked my mind to researching it considering I have divorced parents. I am very intrigued in learning about the different reactions in the different ages since I never had the answer on why my 10 year old brother reacted the way he did. I will be providing examples of different situations that resulted in divorce with adults and the impact on the different ages on the children of the parents.
What Are The Effects of Divorces on Different Age Groups
No matter what age, all children need time to adjust to the astronomic change in having divorced parents. Since the day we are born, we are use to having both a mother and a father; the thought of them not possibly loving each other anymore is very baffling. Ages react very differently to divorce and can result in much misbehavior later in life. In fact, the research says that in general, all ages reactions are consistent depending on their developmental stages. Any situation similar to divorce affects all members of the family, from the kids all the way to relatives. While all reactions are different, the children depend on how the parents support them and always putting them first. The ideal way to help children get through the pain is the dedication to work together despite showing the pain in the parent’s faces (Coping with divorce, Single parenting, and Remarriage; A risk and resiliency perspective 1999).
It is very common for children to react to the way the parents do. If the divorced couple has a bad attitude all the time, who talks bad about their ex husband or wife, it will result in how the children will react later in their lifetime. It is pollution to the child’s mind to listen to all the demeaning talk and will later create a habit in doing the same...