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The Loss Of A Parent Impacts A Child Greatly

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“At some point along the way, almost every child fantasizes about what life would be like without parents. It would be oodles of fun, with unlimited television, ice cream every night for dinner and none of those pesky rules” (Tesoriero 1). Except this is not how life works. When a parent dies and the reality sets in, it quickly shows us that is not all fun and games as one would think. The death of a parent is a devastating reality that some young children have to face along with the effects it will have on them for the rest of their lives. The loss of a parent impacts a child greatly as this event will twist their whole life around in a blink of an eye. The way the child uses this tragedy ...view middle of the document...

It is important to let the child know that once their mom or dad is dead they are never coming back and it is okay to feel mad or sad about the situation.
Another type of death that can be more devastating is the unexpected death. More often than not parents die and their children are left in a big scary big world with no guideline on how to survive. This is because most parents do not expect to die while their beloved child is so young. It can also be very difficult to plan ahead for, as a parent does not want to think of leaving behind their child while they still need them.
As discussed in the book Teenagers Face to Face with bereavement by Karen Gravel and Charles Haskins, children and teens often question the death of their parents. Why did they die if they still need them? A common thought is that a parent is supposed to be there for their child until they are adults. Parents are supposed to be there at their child’s graduation and weddings. When this is not the case it can lead to anger and confusion. (Karen gravel and Charles Haskins 50).The parent or guardian of the child their parent or parents has the responsibility of trying to understand the child’s thoughts or questions. When a child’s parent has died it can be very hard for them to adjust to this difficult situation knowing that the death is permanent. It is hard a child to understand death when they do not understand life yet. It is important to not underestimate the situation. The child is most likely hurting and is just waiting for someone to comfort them. When a parent first dies the child might be very afraid or mad. A common thought by bereaved children is that everyone else in the world seems to have a mother and a father except for them. They spend their days often staring out a window or door just waiting for their parent to walk in again. A common fear is that their parent or guardian who is caring for them now will die, leaving them alone again.
A Bruce Perry article, “Helping Children Manage Their Grief” from Early childhood Today Magazine explains that children have a hard time dealing with a loss their parent or parents but it is important to help them with the grieving process, he supports his claim by first explaining the loss and how a child might view it, the different grieving processes, and finally tips for talking about the loss. Perry’s purpose is to help adults understand the grieving process of a child who has lost a parent in order to help them through this tough time in their life. It is important to listen to the child who is grieving as they are hurting inside. The parent or guardian should understand and accept the fact that the child’s grief may take some time. The child needs a sense of safety. To them it is as if their whole world has been shaken and turned upside down. The child should continue to keep his or her daily schedule the same. It is also imperative to maintain friendships, their social life and focus in school. It is also helpful to...

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