The Negative Effect of Divorce on Children
Divorce has a negative effect on the psychological and social aspects of our children, which may appear instantly or not come to the surface for years. This is why I think that divorce should only be a last resort and not rushed into even by couples with the most troubled marriages. The only acceptable reason for someone rushing into divorce is if they or their children are in danger. I believe that marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly and disregarded at the first bump in the road especially when there are children involved. Far too many people do not want to take responsibility for their actions and choices; for example, people use abortion as birth control and couples’ jumping in and out of marriages like it’s a trial and error institution. Marriage is no longer taken seriously; commitment and monogamy are no longer an essential ingredient. For most couples today, it’s not even considered as a part of marriage. The negative effects that divorce has on children should be the number one consideration when a couple hits that hard time in their relationship.
Children are psychologically and socially affected by divorce and may need counseling either at the time of their parent’s divorce or in the future. They may react instantly by getting lower grades or becoming depressed or anxious. Younger children may begin to cling to the parent that remains in the home with them for they fear that both parents will eventually leave them. Older children may begin to rebel or become extremely disobedient and disrespectful. You may see unpleasant attitudes develop and they can become unsocial and no longer desire to be around their friends. Most children feel guilty for their parent’s marriages breaking up although 99% of the time it has nothing to do with the children. These things need to be considered when a couple thinks that divorce will solve their problems. Sometimes divorce has the opposite effect and actually causes more issues for them and their children.
Marriages are difficult and require work; some days you have to choose to stay no matter how you feel. You made that commitment and every marriage will arrive at bumps in the road or crossroads. You will not always agree on every issue and sometimes life’s hardships will add unneeded stress to an already rocky situation but if you take a stand and chose to wait it out issues have a way of working themselves out. Some marriages end because one spouse decides that the grass must be greener on the other side. This is a cowardly and selfish way to look at your marriage. There should be enough love and respect in your relationship where you can go to your spouse and say that this need is not being met and you’re struggling. I believe if your marriage is based on honesty, faith and trust that there...