There are common ordeals and situations that can trouble a family emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Adoption is one situation a family must encounter when a child is born without a proper system of support to sustain life after birth. The causes for a family to make a heartfelt decision to place a child for adoption can have dramatic effects on the birth parents, adoptive parents, and child (Adoptee), even if the decision is meant for the best.
The birth parents are affected by the thought of loss of a child due to the adoption placement procedure during pregnancy because their unplanned arrival of a child and life plans will take an unexpected turn as new parents. A struggle takes place mostly when the decision is made by the birth parents to follow through with placing their child for adoption to gain relief that a better future is in store for their baby and themselves, but a sense of loss still lingers in their lives. Everyone involved in this process affects the birth parent’s judgment and detachment to their child after birth because mixed feelings can emerge due to their decision which will cease the parental rights they have. (Information Gateway) If an agency is involved, there are four rights that apply towards custody: Confidential, Minimal, Moderate, and Maximum.
Confidential is when adoptive parents have no identifying background information and no contact with birth parents ever. Minimal gives birth parents and/or adoptive parents only non-identifying information (e.g., age, medical history) exchanged through an intermediary. Moderate states that birth parents and adoptive parents share identifying information but no plan is established for farther contact. Finally, Maximum is when birth parents and adoptive parents share identifying information and establish a plan for continuing contact. ("Adoption & Foster Care Resources") After the birth of a child, the birth parents face more complications with their families and themselves.
Secondly, birth parent’s intense stress can continue into later years like on the child’s birthday and while they think of what type of person their son or daughter might have become under their care. For example, an adoptee might study and learn to play instruments very well with the adoptive parents, but if the child would have grown – up with his/her birth parents. They might would have been a great artist, but since this was not the case. The child may not develop those skills as the birth parents would have hoped. Through all this loss and guilt, the relationship among both parents may fall apart because of how each one feels about the adoption and their parent’s lack of support will distance them all even farther from one another. A major case is when the birth mother may have to leave her home and family due to pregnancy, which would degrade her educational and work status in the community. (Information Gateway) The birth parents have to encounter much hardship and denial to of most...