Effective communication is one of the most important things to maintain a happy relationship. Communication will help to create a better atmosphere and to know what are the interests, thoughts and feelings of your loved one. All romantic relationships need a lot of communications from both sides. The main factor is interpersonal communication, which couples are able to overlap environments and create a relationship. We reviewed the movie “The Breakup” and have found the concepts of Integrating, differentiating, and terminating. This movie shows how ineffective communication can dissolve a relationship. The lack of communication is the main factor why Brooke and Gary break up. This couple tends to rely on other people instead of trying to solve their problems talking to each other. They avoid talking because every time a new conflict will begin. In many of the scenes the couple creates big arguments from small issues. In this paper, we will explain the scenes of the movie that can be compared to the interpersonal communication concepts.
Description of the Interpersonal Communication
The first concept we choose to write on is initiating. According to the book Looking Out Looking In, initiating is the first stage of a relationship, and it means to show interest in another person and to give signals that shows interest building up some kind of relationship. (Alder, 2012) In the movie one of the scenes where the concept of initiating is displayed is when Brooke is staring at a baseball game and Gary was sitting near her. Suddenly Gary offers Brooke a hot dog, after insisting several times she finally gets the hot dog. After the baseball game Gary invites Brooke to a date.
The second concept we choose to write on is differentiating. The book Looking Out Looking In says, differentiating is the stage where relationship issues begin to arise. In this stage is where the “me” messages begin to occur forgetting about the “we” orientation. (Alder, 2012) One evening Brook and Gary become having arguments in the dinner in front of all their family. The argument begins because Gary wanted to get a pool table in the condo, Brooke didn’t agree with him and a conflict begins. Both of them begin to start talking about their own interests, forgetting about the interest of them as a couple.
The third concept we choose to write on is Terminating. According to the book Looking Out Looking In, terminating is the stage where relationships deteriorate until they reach their final stage. Not all relationships end, many of the marriages last for a lifetime, but other relationships have the desire to dissociate. (Alder, 2012) Like it was the case of the movie, Brooke decides to terminate the relationship because she felt that there is nothing much left. She believed that Gary did care much about her. But the problem really was that both of them didn’t find a way to communicate effectively. Although Brooke and Gary loved each other very much it was...