The year Debbie began the six grade, her or Candi did not know this would be the year that would change their lives forever. This year of school started out great, Debbie seemed to have built up some self-esteem, and was excited about school this year. She was so happy to have such a good friend in Candi. A little over half-way of the school year the most devastating thing happened. Debbie arrived at school one day, and waited on Candi's bus to arrive as usual. The bus came but Candi or her sister Paige was not on it. Debbie knew it was going to be a rough day at school without Candi there. After lunch that day, Debbie had gone to the restroom and when she came back, Candi and Paige were there. They were getting stuff out of there desk, and they were crying. When Debbie seen this she did not know what to do or what to say. So, she just sat back down at her desk. When they left, the teacher announces to the class, that Candi and Paige's mother had passed away. Debbie immediately started crying, she had become close with Candi's family since they had become friends in the third grade. Debbie had spent many nights with Candi. Candi's mom would take them shopping or to the movies. Debbie was devastated, she did not know what to do with her emotions, and this was her first real experience with death. This event in Debbie's life helped her in her moral development, and what is expected of her. The world was changing around Debbie. It was scary but she grew from it.
The next couple years were good for Debbie. There were a lot of changes going on, but it was all a learning experience for her. She and Candi became even closer. In the 7th grade the hormones started going crazy, she started her menstrual cycle. Around this time she started sneaking cigarettes from her mom and started smoking. Early in the 8th grade, Debbie found out some more devastating news, at the end of the school year Candi and Paige would be moving four hours away. Debbie cried and cried the thought of not having her best friend in high school with her was terrible. This was the only school year Debbie had perfect attendance. This defiantly affected Debbie's social and emotional development. She began thinking negatively about things, and thought nothing ever went her way. Theory says that at this age their individual characteristics and social environment will effect their motivation, behavior, self-perception, and their mental health(Eccles, 1999) It greatly affected Debbie's life goals.
Debbie was so lost when she started high school. She was again a loner. She was so concerned about her body image. She was still overweight probably considered obese. Her self-esteem was hitting rock bottom again. All these things did affect Debbie's school performance. In her sophomore year, she started to make a few friends. They probably were not the best of friends because this is when she started drinking alcohol. Her grades started to slip, and many things became confusing for...