Frist, I would like to congratulate both of you on this exciting new journey you are about to start. As you are already well aware you will be adopting three lovely young children from Mexico; there is Sofia, 17, Diego, 12, and Carlos 4. Since Sofia has grown up in the Mexican heritage this transition will be hardest on her, Diego might also have a tough time transitioning, however Carlos will have the smoothest transition because the norms of his culture have not been impressed on him the same way as the older two. Each child will cope with the transition differently and I have gathered information to help make their transition easier for them as well as for you.
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Sofia might seem very protective of Diego and Carlos because they are they only family she has left. Many Mexican families do not seek help out of the family or friends. This might explain why Sofia is not be very open at first since opening up to strangers is not something she was allowed to do in Mexico.
The Mexican culture is not only very family and group oriented but they are also very intimate and personal. This means that when in company of others, they like to be close and for objects to not being in between them. They avoid eye contact with older adults or anyone of authority. They are also comfortable with silence, are normally a little shy, talk softly and indirectly.
Finding one’s identity is hard for anyone no matter where they come from. However for Sofia, Diego, and Carlos it might be even more complicated to fully understand their identity. This is especially true if they constantly have American values forced upon them as they grow up.
There is a lot of information a child learns before identity of race or ethnicity is even a far-reaching concept in their mind. Things like what names are familiar or are different or what foods are normal or weird. Many minorities are never taught to about their heritage in school and if they are it was in the perspective of Euro-Americans. This can lead to them being ashamed and not wanting to identify with their race but instead wanting to be like, live like, and be accepted by the dominant culture (Pierce, 2014).
However there will come a point when they will start to question the dominant culture’s attitude and behaviors. This leads to confusion. They will have a sense of awareness of racism and might be bothered by acts and behaviors that might not have bothered them in the past. This is also when they will start to embrace their own racial group completely, and they might reject the values and norms associated with the dominant group. Once they develop a secure place in their racial identity they might re-direct their anger toward the dominant society to exploration of individual and group identity issues. This finally leads to the desire to eliminate all forms of oppression. While they have high level of positive regard toward...