True Love Does Wait
Abstinence is not a word you hear very often, especially in my generation. However, it is a term used, taught and practiced in the Christian church. This does not mean if you are a Christian or belong to a Christian church you automatically follow the teaching of abstinence. It is still a decision one would have to make. Many Christian influences contribute to making and keeping this decision; however, the greatest one to me was the song “Wait for Me” by Rebecca St. James.
I was first introduced to the idea of abstinence when I was in the sixth grade. The youth pastor at my church brought a new program into our youth group; it was called “True Love Waits.” Some people might think the sixth grade is a little young to begin talking about sex, but they must realize by that time most preteens have already had a year or two of sex education. This new program was a mix between sex ed and God’s plan for our lives. We discussed the reasons why you shouldn’t have sex before marriage both in the physical and spiritual sense, and why God desires this plan for our lives.
The youth who decided to go through this new program ranged in ages from 11 to 18; and attended classes once a week for three weeks. Once the program was over, the youth group held a Commitment Service on Valentine’s Day. The youth who participated made the commitment official by signing a card and receiving a ring to wear which symbolizes the commitment;”True Loves Waits.” The commitment read as follows;
“Believing that True Love Waits, I make a commitment to God, myself, my family, my future mate, and my future children to be sexually abstinent from this day until the day I enter a biblical marriage relationship.”
This was the beginning of my commitment, and by no means is it the end of the story. In the sixth grade I had no intention of breaking my promise, but of course there is not temptation to have sex at eleven or twelve years old for the majority of young people. Middle school was no problem for me, girls came and went; and I never made any real relationship commitments. However, the next step in my life was likely to bring some challenges, my freshman year of high school.
That same year my youth pastor decided to do the program again. I guess he decided it would be a refresher course for the ones who already attended the classes and a new experience for the ones who had not. This was a great time in my life to recommit. I was moving to a new, bigger and little bit scary school which would be full of tests. They were tests of my faith, my commitment and my very being. I went through the class and made the commitment again, with every intention of keeping it. At the end we had another service...