Two Hearts that Beat as One in Tristan and Iseult
What causes two people in a relationship to be caught in an emotional roller coaster? There are many answers to this question. In the book, -The Romance of Tristan and Iseult, by Joseph Bedier, Tristan and Iseult had a relationship that can only be explained psychologically and spiritually. From the beginning of Tristans' childhood, he was born of misfortune that seemed to cycle throughout his life. His father died and his mother abandoned him because she did not survive his birth. When he had a relationship with Iseult, they were constantly separated from each other. Tristans' longing for contact with Iseult is a reflection of his childhood relationships. Based on psychoanalysis, throughout Tristans' life, he experiences attachment and separation.
Adults convey different attachment styles that determine their behavior in love relationships. Since Tristan was abandoned by his parents, unable to create a bond with his mother, Governal and Rohalt provided psychological needs, especially security, to reached out as an attachment figure to him. In Psychology Today, "Love:The Immutable Longing for Contact" by Susan Johnson, John Bowlby states "The deep sense of security that develops fosters in the infant enough confidence to begin exploring the surrounding world, making excursions into it, and developing relationships with others"(Johnson 34). Tristan definitely illustrates the security mentioned above. He was taken care of, loved, treated like their own son, and he was prepared to visit other lands. During his trip he immediately initiated a relationship with King Mark. Not knowing Tristan was his nephew, he was mesmerized by his voice and playing of the harp, they were able to relate to each other and welcomed him into his home.
The soul was also involved in attachment because it plays a role in relationships. In Psychology Today:"Soul Mates by Thomas Moore, "Relatedness means living with the particular individuals who come into our lives, and not only with our ideals and images of the perfect family" (Moore 28). The King trusted Tirstan's soul to welcome the stranger into his life. Tristan accepted his invitation and felt connected to the King. Considering his biological father died the King was of a father figure to him.
Based on psychology, our feelings and emotions of love have derived from past experiences. Tristan and Iseult supposedly fell in love spontaneously because of the potion they drank. I disagree with that statement because De Rougemont believes the "potion was just an alibi for passion" (48). There were signs in the story they were interested in each other, such as the incident when she was taking him a bath after being injured from killing the Morholt.
Her glance lingered on the face of the wounded man; she saw that he was beautiful and thought to herself, "Truly, if his prowess equals his beauty, my champion will fight a brave battle". . Tristan...