When Love Hurts: A Look At Domestic Violence In The Military

2265 words - 9 pages

When Love Hurts1When Love Hurts:A Look at Spousal Abuse in the MilitaryPsychology 101When Love Hurts2When Love Hurts:A Look at Spousal Abuse in the MilitaryDomestic violence is a serious problem in America. According to Roleff et al (2000), it is estimated that every fifteen seconds a person is abused by their spouse or live-in partner. Nearly half of the nation's couples, whether married or unmarried, have had some type of violent dispute.(p16) Domestic abuse can take many forms. It may be hitting, slapping, or shoving a person. It may be controlling behavior such as; hiding car keys from someone so they cannot go to work, taking car keys and checkbooks with them to work so as to leave the other person stranded, listening in on phone conversations, or reading a person's email. It is a pattern of behavior typified by one person in a relationship trying to gain power or control over the other through fear and intimidation. Hasenauer (1997) reports that spousal abuse can happen to both men and women, however women make up most of the victims and are more likely to suffer serious injuries. (p34)Moniz (2002b) states that between May and July of 2003, four military wives, whose husbands were stationed at Fort Bragg, NC, were murdered by their husbands. Three of the four husbands had recently returned from deployments in Afghanistan. (n.p.) These killings shocked a nation and turned a spotlight of controversy on the Armed Forces. Some in the public believe that the military is just a group of patriarchal good old boys who would gladly turn a blind eye in order to cover another soldier's back. They believe that the military only cares about it's soldiers, and not their soldiers' dependents. TheWhen Love Hurts 3military may be trying to implement new programs in order to change it's image, but the fact remains, if you are a military wife, you are three times more likely to suffer abuse than your civilian counterpart. (Moniz 2002a n.p.) Life in the military is rough. It comes with it's own unique stressors which may aggravate spousal abuse to levels unseen in the civilian population.In military and civilian homes alike, the same 3-stage cycle of abuse is followed. According to Walker (1979) this cycle begins at what is commonly labeled the "tension-building stage". It is a time of minor conflicts that may seem to escalate for no reason. There may be some physical abuse. This stage may last for a few hours or a few months. The victim is aware of the mounting tension and tries to be on his or her best behavior. Inevitably, one of these minor conflicts will escalate into a major episode of violence, this is considered stage two. Once an attack starts, there is usually little that the victim can do to stop it. After the violent episode comes a period of remorse, stage three. The abuser feels ashamed and guilty, and promises that it will never happen again. The abuser may shower the victim with gifts and be on his/her best behavior, but sooner or later, the...

Find Another Essay On When Love Hurts: A Look at Domestic Violence in the Military

Does domestic violence remain in the home and not affect the society at large?

717 words - 3 pages "Domestic Violence remains in the home and does not affect the society at large" It is quite difficult to believe this statement for we all are not ignorant - unless we choose to be - to the fact that domestic violence does affect the society at large based on situations that have occurred in modern times.Domestic violence, broadly defined, is violence within a home. Domestic violence does not occur within a certain ethnicity, race, religion or

The House on Mango Street; a Look at the Ties Between Sex, Violence, and Pleasure

880 words - 4 pages unknowingly stumbles into the predicament herself as her adventures escalate and bring her deeper into the barrios’ barbaric and dangerous nature. As an example, In “The Family of Little Feet”, a tie between sexual nature and violence is exemplified when Esperanza and her group receive a bag of shoes that insinuate a growing danger. The chapter begins seemingly lighthearted and innocent as the little girls go about wearing high-heels and dance shoes

Domestic and Internationa Adoption: A look at Adopting a Child or Adopting Out a Child

1842 words - 7 pages Adoption The “Love of My Life” is a brief story about a college couple’s love for each other. Unfortunately, they had unprotected sex. Instead of considering another way out, the girl insisted that her boyfriend throw the infant in a dumpster and leave it to die. Instead of leaving the infant to die, she should have put the baby up for adoption for another family. If she would have done that, a family who either could not have children, or just

"Blade Runner": In depth look at the "love" scene with Rachael and Deckard.

596 words - 2 pages questions before he can say for certain that Rachael is a replicant (when the usual amount of questions would only be around twenty).In such a controlled and organised society, everything does indeed seem extremely run-down, and essentially a dystopia, despite the advancements of technology. Therefore a love, especially the one which slowly blossoms between Rachael and Deckard contrasts heavily with the environment. That is the beauty of this love

Taking a Serious Look at Media Violence and its Effect on Children

1285 words - 5 pages or billboards wouldn't be present. However, one must look at individual factors such as personal backgrounds (family, friends), chemical or emotional deficits and other social circumstances such as ones social environment. So when there's a violent incident I believe the media causes only in a small percentage of the incidents, but is generally blamed for a majority of them.In order for a human being to display aggression, violence or anger, it

What explanations are offered for violence against women? (A look at Biblical and media influence on violence against women)

711 words - 3 pages toys to be picked up, played with and dumped when the men get bored.One would think that this idea would be strongly repudiated by the Christian belief however even in the Bible there is occasions of sexual violence against women:"So the man took his concubine and sent her outside to them, and they raped her and abused her throughout the night, and at dawn they let her go."[Judges 19:25]Many myths surround violence against women but these are not

The Gravity of Domestic Violence in America

1635 words - 7 pages , physical abuse is more likely to occur at home than anywhere else. “About three-fourths of all family violence occurred in or near the victim's residence.” (bjs.gov) Perhaps this is the reason that most cases of physical abuse are never reported; the toll on a child to keep this kind of secrecy can range from social impairment to violent behavior. Although physical abuse is the most recognized form of domestic violence, sexual abuse on a child is

A Look at the Ileostomy

613 words - 2 pages the stool via catheter throughout the day. With this ileostomy a stoma cover is needed to collect any mucous discharge at the stoma site. The third type is a Ileoanal Reservoir. The surgeon creates a pocket within the pelvic cavity by making a pouch from the ileum and rectum and connecting it to the anus. This functions when there is an urge to defecate the stool is passed through the anus and out of the body. Stool excretion With a standard

A Look At the Past

1437 words - 6 pages Wow, how the times have changed. Just imagine this scenario. A group of friends go out to eat at a restaurant. They walk in the establishment and a man stops them. “You all are black. You can’t be in here!”, the man says. The group of friends must leave because of the color of their skin. No one really thinks about events like this anymore because everyone today is allowed to socialize together. Authors Kate Chopin and Alice Walker were probably

Domestic Violence In America

1803 words - 7 pages women in the emergencyroom are there because of domestic violence; problem two is that the survey also 'includesmen hit by women' (Domestic V.). Looking at the facts given out by the media becomesless shocking when the entire story is analyzed and realized.Because domestic violence has become such a well known problem, it has becomecommon knowledge that unless something is done, it will continue to be a problem forfamilies to deal with. Killing the

Domestic Violence in America

3039 words - 12 pages problem (Velson-Friedrich, 1994). Current estimates suggest that three to four million women are the victims of physical abuse by their intimate partners (Harris & Cook, 1994). According to the FBI, some form of domestic violence occurs in half of the homes in the United States at least once a year (Dickstein, 1988). In reality one out of every six marriages the wife is physically abused. Every fifteen seconds a women is battered in the United

Similar Essays

Cries Unheard: When Love Hurts And Kills

759 words - 4 pages On April 22, 2008, Anita passed after sustaining injuries she received from a domestic violence altercation. Despite the many trials in her life, she led a happy life and could always find humor in any situation. Always willing to lend a helping hand, one might consider her a natural caregiver. Happy, comedic, and a bit eccentric are words used to describe Anita. Her family would never could have imagined she would meet her tragic demise at

Why Did The French Fail So Often In Military Battles Around The Period Of The French Revolution? A Look At France's Military Tactics From The 1400s 1800s.

848 words - 3 pages pointed towards a target, as in the many sieges of the 15th-18th centuries. The troop morale was low: before Napoleon there was no real leader among the French military, nobody for the troops to look up to. Lastly the soldiers were heavily confused by the use of mercenaries. It is no wonder the French lost so many battles, and are considered to have one of the worst militaries in history.Works CitedBouton, Cynthia A. The Flour War. Pennsylvania: Pennsylvania StateUniversity Press, 1993.Duby, Georges and Robert Mandrou. A History of French Civilization. NewYork: Random House, 1964.

Analysis Of John O'neil's Unfit For Command A Look At The Military History Of John Kerry.

796 words - 3 pages John O'Neil, a fellow swift boats men with Kerry presents this campaign book to right the egregious wrongs he finds in the statements of Kerry regarding his Purple Heart. O'neil cites a variety of soldiers on the boats and engaged in combat with Kerry to provide an authoritative overview of the incidents leading to his early-departure aswell as the grand medal. William Frankie, a swift boat veteran, sums up the argument best when he notes, "That

A Face Only A Mother Could Love: A Look At The Stereotypes Of Beauty And Ugliness In Horror Movies.

1080 words - 4 pages -cosmetic surgery looks would suit their needs just fine. Most people are scared of deformities. What better way to strike fear than with characters like these. Some movies go so far to make the story unbelievably ridiculous, just so the bad guy can be horribly grotesque.So let's take a deeper look at Freddy Krueger, a serial killer who terrified the parents of Elm Street by going on a child killing spree. The parents, in an act of vigilance, burned