Mother's Should Stay Home with Their Children
One day a mother and her three and a half-year-old daughter were approaching a daycare center. The girl turned to her mother and asked her this question: "Mom, is it against the law for you to stay home?" There was another little girl that would never talk whenever her mom took her to the babysitters house. The mother consulted child psychologist Eleanor Wiesberger. She asked her why she thought that the girl wouldn't talk during her stay. Wiesberger asked the girl about it and the little girl said "Tell mommy to tay' home"(2). Stories like these are heard far to often from children whose mothers work outside of the home.
Mothers have a very big responsibility. They have a lot of big decisions to make. Some decisions are harder and more important than others are. For instance, one of the big decisions a mother must make is whether to stay home with her children or to go back to work. In this paper, I will give reasons why a mother should consider staying home with her children during their early years of childhood.
In the book Woman at Home, author Arlene Cardozo tells of one feminist theory that says, "Children are no reason to stay home. The man is a parent too and he doesn't stay home with the children why should the wife?"(4). This may be a valid statement but is it the right kind of attitude to have?
The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles from the LDS church have put out a statement called "A Proclamation to the World." One of the points they make in it concerns the fathers and mothers and each of their roles. It reads "By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children"(1).
From the very first moment a mother holds her baby in her arms, the baby begins to become attached. Attachment as defined by Psychologist Mary Ainsworth is "an affectional tie that one person or animal forms between himself and another specific one-a tie that binds them together in space and endures over time"(45). Ainsworth has done some extensive research on the attachment of a mother and her child.
"Among the features of "excellent care" that have been measured are 1. general sensitivity to the infants need for stimulation as well as for quiet, 2. responsiveness to the infants specific signals such as fussing or turning away, and 3. talking and playing with the infant in ways that actively encourage the child's growth and development. It is concluded synchrony and responsive caregiving in the early months lead naturally to secure attachment in the later months. If a mother's caregiving is insufficient, the child will form an insecure attachment with the mother"(47).
Now ask yourself what this has to do with a...